Not Jane Austen's Emma
Emma, she/her, English major extraordinare
handsome, clever, and rich? I wish
Maybe “To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before” is “””heteronormative””” but it’s about healthy relationships, stars an Asian lead and an all Asian family (except the dad,) has a loving single dad, and even tho there’s another female rival she doesn’t put the other girl down by calling her a skank.
We need more movies with gay leads but young girls who are gonna date boys need to see healthy examples so I’ll happily watch it multiple times and read the books. Good job Netflix and Jenny Han.
(via wildandwhirlingwords)
Gym goers, what is something that new year resolution-ers should know about the gym?
The gym can be a very intimidating place. You will see impossibly big muscular dudes that get all red in the face and scream at the top of their lungs while picking up a bar with as many weights as can fit on it. You will see insanely attractive women with perfectly flat stomachs and huge boobs working out in designer yoga pants and sports bras that hide nothing, taking up half an acre of space with their mats, dumbells, stretchy bands, weird half yoga balls, iPads, and shaker bottles full of mysterious viscous green fluids. You will get on the treadmill next to an old skinny 80-year-old dude who will be running faster than you for twice as long as you, and will walk around the changing room afterwards very naked.
The important thing to remember is that you have every right to be a part of this gym, just as much as they do. You are allowed to use everything you are paying to use. As intimidating as some people may seem, if you go ask them “Hey, how much longer do you have here? Can I use this (machine, weights, space) when you’re done?” then they will say yes, and they will politely tell you how long they have left. If they’re a jerk about it then they’re a huge asshole, and they’re an exception to the norm.
Nobody will ever judge you. If you do a cardio machine at the lowest speed for 5 minutes, or if you go lift weights and lift just the empty bar, or if your hair is a mess, you have no makeup, your fat is jiggling everywhere, you sweat completely through your shirt, and you look like total shit, NOBODY will judge you. Nobody cares. They are there for themselves, not for you. Most, if not all of them, were in your situation at one point.
In general, follow these rules and no one will judge you:
Wear appropriate clothing. Gym shorts, tshirt, socks, and sneakers are fine for anyone. A sports bra too if you are a woman.
Make sure your clothing is clean, including your shoes.
Put all gym equipment away when you’re done with it.
Wipe down equipment afterwards if you sweat all over it.
Don’t bother people when they are in the middle of an exercise (wait until they are resting).
Give people enough space to do their workout.
Don’t stare at people, hit on them, laugh at them, or insult them. If someone looks focused, best not to talk to them at all unless you are asking them something specific like if they are done with a piece of equipment.
Don’t hog any equipment if you aren’t using it. Use one machine at a time. It’s okay to rest, but try not to sit on equipment that you aren’t using and that someone else might be looking to use.
(Source: reddit.com)
wut4:
The most disheartening part of this whole shutdown thing for me isn’t how the politicians are behaving. It’s how little regard the public has for the work that we do. And I know that comments on Facebook are full of cranks and idiots but… wow, there’s an awful lot of people who really just don’t see any value in anything that I’ve been spending 10 years of my life on, and my colleagues have spent their careers doing. People don’t think any government work is important unless it involves carrying a gun around.
Yup. And close friends with that sentiment is the one where they literally don’t care that this is someone’s livelihood and people aren’t gonna be able to like…pay rent and shit. My parents have expressed this sentiment…they think that no gov’t workers do work that they ought to be paid for because all gov’t employees are a waste of federal money. It so unspeakably ignorant. Because if you went to someone and were like “hey do you like getting your weather reports every day? Like is that worth paying someone a salary to do?” they’d be like “yeah!” but if you’re like “cool, lots of that info comes from the fed and they’re shut down right now”. Or if you were like “do you guys think hurricane tracking is useful?” even conservatives would probably be like “yeah” but it just never connects in their tiny brains that there’s a person doing that work and sometimes that person works for the gov’t. They just never think about what the details of a gov’t shut down involves. These are the same morons that’re like “SPACE FORCE”. Cool…like…you know NASA is federal and most of that would come from their research, right?
(via wildandwhirlingwords)
Cultures that endorse modesty and cultures that endorse hypersexualization are the *same* thing. Both define female sexuality by how it relates to the male gaze. In both cases the female body exists as an ornament either to be kept carefully hidden or put on display. Neither is an empowering feminist achievement.
Thank you.
(via freckles-and-books)
As a library worker, there’s something I want to say to you.
You do not have to apologize for the books you choose to read.
At all. To anyone. You owe nobody any explanations; you need no excuse or “good reason” to be reading the book.
You do not have to be ashamed for wanting to read “bad” books. You wanna read Twilight? We got Twilight. Need a banal, cookie-cutter-plot mystery or thriller? Those are always fun. Our regulars check them out by the towering stack. Ask Betty for recommendations; she’s read them all. 50 Shades of Oh Fucking No? We’ve got it, we even got it in large print. Have fun. Check out the rest of our porn too. Oh, and the sex manuals are a MUST if you want to “experiment” yourself. Don’t be afraid to ask; they’re here for a reason.
Want to read a book written by a huge asshole everyone hates and agree was a monster? Yeah, we have those. No, we don’t think you’re an asshole for wanting to know what was actually written in there, or judging things for yourself.
You are not too old for Diary of a Wimpy Kid, The Babysitter’s Club, or Captain Underpants. You are not too young for Sherlock Holmes. There’s nothing wrong with a boy reading The Princess Academy or Sweet Valley High. There’s nothing wrong with a girl being into The Hardy Boys or Artemis Fowl instead.
You do not have to pull the shame face and offer me an excuse when you check out your books. I don’t care if I got so angry at that book I threw it against a wall when I read it: you have the right to read it, and enjoy it if it’s enjoyable for you. THAT’S WHY THE LIBRARY HAS IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. If we only stocked pure, unproblematic literature everyone approved of, by authors of unquestionable virtue, we wouldn’t have any books at all. Or music. Or movies. It would be utterly fucking boring. And it certainly wouldn’t be a library.
When I was younger, I wish someone had told me straight-up that not all adults experience “a calling”. That many of them never find particular purpose in a career. That sometimes, their job is just what pays the bills and they have to seek satisfaction and fulfillment elsewhere.
Because as an adult, this pervasive notion that there exists a perfect path for everyone, that people should love what they do, and that work is meant to function as a vehicle for fulfilling a person’s grand life destiny is not only inaccurate for many of us, it can be toxic.
The ideal is so ingrained that I have to remind myself constantly I’m not a failure because I don’t adore my job, and because I’m not rocking the world with my work. That is okay.
Sometimes, work is just work. There isn’t always a perfect career path, magically waiting to be discovered. There might not be this THING you were born to do. Sometimes, you discover that what you really want to be when you grow up is “paid”.
(Source: autumnyte-old, via morgauseoforkney)
snail as old as slime
bog as old as grime
beauty and the peat
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